We’ve almost made it through the Holiday Season and soon will be ringing in the New Year. There’s still parties to go to and (dysfunctional) family visits to get through. You can improve those dysfunctional family relationships though simply by using laughter through it all.
Does it seem that everyone you talk to or run into while out and about town lately has a story to tell about how the economy is affecting them? Whether I’m talking to my family or my best friend in New Hampshire, someone is out of a job or their working hours have been reduced.
For many, besides the economic hardship, there is also the resultant impact of no longer having health insurance. This situation isn’t a laughing matter.
Laughter For Health
Laughter can be the best medicine! By laughing more you can increase your longevity, reduce your stress levels and perhaps fend off illnesses – whether real or imaginary. Stressful situations frequently have an impact on your personal relationships and those with family and loved ones. Believe me, I’ve been married for 30+ years and each and every day has been an adventure. Laughing together as a form of anxiety management can build, restore and cement dysfunctional families and relationships that at times may have been rocky.
While I don’t proclaim to be an expert at marriage even after 35 years, I will share a “secret.” I found out early on in a relationship that it’s best to laugh with your partner rather than at your partner.
This method is best exemplified by team players. My daughters both were college varsity letter winners. One daughter played women’s lacrosse and her team won many championships. Their coach encouraged team bonding and you could just see it in the teammate’s faces when they laughed at the same time during their pre-game coaching sessions. The same effect takes place in personal relationships. You can become a cohesive unit and tackle problems together when life throws lemons at you. Displays of public affection or “PDAs” don’t always have to be touchy-feely – try sharing a chuckle together over something that only the two of you “get.” Just like a team.
You may be asking yourself at this point, what if we don’t have anything in common any longer? True, it happens that people develop different interests and it may seem that they have grown apart. By laughing together at the same moment at the same thing, you recognize that you do, in fact, share common ground. All of a sudden you realize you aren’t as divergent as it may seem, because you both have a wacky sense of humor.
Arguments may not seem like an appropriate time to crack a joke, but by doing so you can take the edge off of a heated discussion and regroup. By laughing, you’ll find that you can avoid a time bomb and you may even find that you forgot what all the bickering was about to begin with!
Have you ever heard of the saying, “If life throws lemons at you, make lemonade?” Find a way to turn your big problems in life upside down by finding something funny in it. The problem then most likely won’t seem as big a deal as you were making out of it. Worrying about a particular situation is harder when you’re laughing. By laughing out loud until you cry, and laughing often, you’ll be able to lower your stress levels, even if life has dealt you a bad hand.
Hopefully you’ll be able to see that in order to form strong bonds in a relationship, laughing as well as playing together is crucial. Take the time to reexamine your own relationship and see if there’s laughter still to be found. If the humor isn’t there, take appropriate actions to rebuild it. The Law of Attraction is in effect.
Seize the moment to recharge your relationship, because laughter is cheaper than therapy.
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Republished from TypeAMom.net, Cindi Matthews, Editor 50-Something Moms