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Lingerie | Or What Do You Do With This Stuff? A Baby Boomer Dilemma


I was going through my lingerie drawer thinking it’s about time I updated some of my “necessities.” Yet just the thought of shopping at Victoria’s Secret sends me into a tailspin.

The Old Gray Mare She Ain’t What She Used To Be

Poor poor poor me

Poor poor poor pitiful me

Poor poor poor me

Poor poor poor pitiful me

Poor poor poor me

Poor poor poor pitiful me

…. Linda Ronstadt

Back in the good old days – the selection of undergarments for gals were pretty limited.

When I was a pre-teen, I started out with a training bra – those teeny tiny bras with expandable stretch fabric for my teeny tiny boobies.

When I got a little older, the undergarments that we wore were bras, slips and garter belts.  Don’t know what a garter belt is?  It held up stockings before panty hose came along!

Of course, my mom and grandmom wore girdles – which my 101 year old grandmom used to call corsets.

We Baby Boomers had nightgowns and peignoir sets that looked like they were straight out of movies with Liz Taylor.  Whoever wears those things now?  I had a long, flowing mint green one that I got for my bridal shower which I took on my honeymoon to Bermuda!  Actually, it really was pretty!  There are whole eBay and online stores now specializing in selling vintage lingerie.

Throughout my teen and young adult life, everything was thrown to the wind during the Hippie and “Burn Your Bra” era. Germaine Greer and the Feminist Movement did a lot to empower women!

Then after awhile, it was back to wearing bras again.

Now, whenever I walk into Target or Victoria’s Secret, to me, it’s like being in Frederick’s of Hollywood – not that I’ve ever been in one, I’ve only seen ads in magazines for the store.

I first learned about sports bras, jogging bras and work-out wear from my daughters when they played sports in high school and college.  Who knew?  Only Nike would do.

Now I have to ask my daughters what are those camisole things for – the “girls” are much bigger now!  Do I wear that stuff underneath my tops?  Under a suit?  Do I wear it as outerwear?

What’s a shelf bra?  I get the hang of what shape wear and Spanx is – I know it goes under my clothes, and some of the time it’s a struggle to get in and out of it, especially when nature calls.  I wore two sets of it underneath my Mother-of-the-Bride gown when DD26 got married!

Just to show you how out-of-the-loop I am – I recently bought some new Bikinis.  It said so, right on the label.  B-I-K-I-N-I.  So somehow mine got stuck in the dryer and mixed in with DD22’s laundry.  She found them and called them “parachutes.”  So they were white.  Whatever.  But they WERE bikinis, not granny panties.

I need a personal shopper for this lingerie stuff.

Don’t laugh, you’ll all be in the same boat some day!
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  1. No laughs from me and I’m already in that boat. I spend my days either braless or in a comfy sports bra…I just don’t get the appeal of all the extravagent undergarments these days…plus I’m just lazy. :-)
    .-= Cat´s last blog ..Spotlight Sunday Blog Giveaways =-.

  2. I just wear bras and panties. Nothing fancy for me.
    .-= Sheilacakes´s last blog ..My favorite cookbook as a kid =-.

  3. I’m right with you too. When I saw photos of what I looked like at my daughter’s wedding I couldn’t believe that my “girdle” rode down so I just bought a pair of cheap Spanx, forget the name of them. Then I had to add a top to help out. Of course I’ll need another pair as a spare. Tomorrow I’m off to buy bathing suits for an upcoming trip and I’m actually scared.
    .-= ConnieFoggles´s last blog ..Harry Connick Jr. Your Songs Review And Giveaway =-.

  4. I’ll just ditto Cat’s comment, I am the same way!
    .-= Candy @ Serendipity Mommy´s last blog ..Let’s Talk About Baby Names =-.

  5. ooooh funny as I was just thinking this AM about heading to eBay to look for a new bra myself! Great article btw!!! I enjoyed it!!
    .-= Danna Crawford´s last blog ..eBay Blog Post: Sept. 27, 2006 =-.

  6. Love the post, and no laughs in this corner. Even though I am 25, with 3 kiddos I don’t get to spend money on myself on all the adorable lingerie that I would like but your right, now a days there are so many to chose from! Now if I could lose these 15 lbs maybe I’ll treat myself to a nice little

    April @carolinamomof3
    .-= April´s last blog ..Quotable Sunday =-.

  7. Luv your post! Gave me a chuckle .. yea I get it! In the right mood I enjoy lingerie shopping … but anymore that is a rare treat.
    .-= Shileen ´s last blog ..Release the Pressures of Life =-.

  8. I went a while back and got all these cute little bra and panties sets to “spice things up a little”. My husband’s reaction was “Didn’t they have plain white?” Oooh I was mad mad mad! I asked him “Well don’t you like the little fancy ones?” and he says “Well they come off don’t they?” LOL Men!!
    .-= Janessa´s last blog ..Small Talk Six Saturday – Party Time!! =-.

  9. I’m trying sooooo hard not to laugh but I can’t contain myself! hahaha I soooo get it! Whatever happened to those really cute and comfy “baby doll” nightgown sort of things that were all the rage oh so many years ago? Are those now considered to be “vintage” lingerie? I’m officially feeling very very old now.

    Then there is all the media pressure to not wear “granny panties” but to wear nice, cute, “sexy” underwear and bras to keep the flame burning strong in the bedroom. (rolls eyes)

    Shelf bras? Yeah I’ve heard of them, especially how shelf bras are what you find with camisoles. err, not very attractive when worn by the more, how should I say… full figure women that are err “top heavy”.

    Having “the girls” floating around within that so-called “bra” looks to me more like someone poured JELLO into the “bra” cuz those twin girls aren’t quite so perky and separated as they perhaps once were. ;)
    .-= Lin´s last blog ..Childhood Obesity: Overweight Children Weight Loss Plan for Kids and Teens =-.

  10. All I have to say is pregnant panties and nursing bra’s… there’s nothing cute or little about what I’ve been wearing. It’s purely functional now!
    .-= Michaela´s last blog ..Goebberts Farm Pumpkin Patch =-.

  11. Hi Cat ~ It isn’t too often I go au-natural any more! But I agree with being comfortable!

  12. Hi Candy – when you get to my age, it’s especially about comfort!

  13. Hi Danna! Yes, you can get anything on eBay as you know, and I really like looking through the vintage lingerie selections!

  14. Hi Janessa – Too funny! Spending all that money on something that doesn’t get a chance to wear out!

  15. Connie you crack me up! I’m glad you can identify with the shapewear MOB stuff! Wish you lived closer – we’d have a grand time over coffee!

  16. Hi Lin! Yay! Somebody who “gets it” and can identify with my trials and tribulations! All these selections in store are mind-boggling! No thongs here – or granny panties!

  17. LOL! I am laughing but just cause you sound like my fact you remind me so much of her, I’ve sent her your link…I think she’ll be hooked :)

    I wear bikinis, no thong, can’t stand them since having kids. Some call them granny panties, I call them COMFORTABLE! :)

    Great post!
    .-= Sarah´s last blog ..Hula Shake Around the Blogosphere {leave your link!} Featuring Tiny Prints Holiday Cards =-.

  18. Ha Sarah! Even my DD26 said thongs are out the window now that she’s married & has kids!

    Send your mom over – If you take after her I’m sure she & I would get along great!

  19. Hi Michaela ~ Amazing how pregnancies & kids change your perspective!

  20. this had me laughing! I only have one kind of underwear these days – period underwear. Seriously, I am in desperate need of some new stuff.
    .-= Creative Junkie´s last blog ..PMS: Pretty Much Screwed =-.

  21. lol Sorry I had to! :) I never go without a bra…it drives me crazy! I’m sure I’ll be in your place one day but until then I buy the sexiest stuff I can when I can. My undies are about the same size as my dds when they come out of the dryer (b/c they’re thongs)! lmao
    .-= Stefanie´s last blog ..Soo exciting! =-.

  22. Even though I’m, as Lin put it, full figured and top heavy, I still go without a bra really often like Cat, because I don’t go out too often because of my disability. When I do go out, I wear one of those “old lady” bras (as my kids call it), because it has to support my back and put “the girls” back up where they belong. They went south a long time ago, and I haven’t been able to wear those pretty lingerie type bras for a while. The Hubs used to buy me nice, sexy bras all the time & even he has given up doing that because he knows its beyond hope.
    .-= Lorie Shewbridge´s last blog ..Mommy’s in the Morning =-.

  23. Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest! I dno’t even think I have any of the fancy stuff. It is all plain jane for me (as my husband sighs)

  24. I am in my upper 20’s and I must admit I don’t know what half of that stuff is either. Pretty simple when it comes to my underwear I guess. So don’t worry :)
    And happy SIT Saturday!
    .-= Emmy´s last blog ..Photo Story Friday =-.

  25. I feel your pain ~ I recently went to Kohl’s to buy a simple black bra. It must have taken me an hour just to get through the obstacle course-like layout of that single department. It was overwhelming! I had to try on more than 20 bras just to be able to narrow it down to the single one that I came for ~ and it’s just so-so.

    .-= Jenn Erickson/Rook No. 17´s last blog ..FREE VINTAGE ALPHABET CLIP ART ~ and caption contest =-.

  26. Hi Cindi.
    I’m feeling your pain.
    Have a great weekend!
    .-= Harriet´s last blog ..I Challenge You to Leave 1000 Comments!!!!!!! =-.

  27. My bra selection is pathetic. I don’t do any of that frilly stuff. I need function.

    You commented above me on sits today so I’m stopping by to say hi!
    .-= Yaya´s last blog ..Orange You Glad It’s Saturday?! =-.

  28. Hi Stephanie – Ha, wish I was as young as you again for my clothes to be the same size as my DDs!

  29. Hi Harriet! Thanks for sharing my pain! Misery loves company!

  30. Hi Lorie! After 35 years, my DH gave up too and realizes it’s more cost-efficient to just buy me flannel pjs for the winter! LOL~

  31. Hi Jenn! I agree, although I luv Kohls, I really have to be in the mood to shop anywhere – if not, then I usually walk around in a daze and come out empty handed!

  32. I myself pick a wedgie when I have one. -GUILTY!
    I won’t wear a thong to have a constant one!! lol
    I wear bikini and I’m fine with them. I lounge around in shorts and a tee as well! :D
    .-= Courtney´s last blog ..Some of my go to items! =-.

  33. I only wish I could find a bra that fits in a regular store. There are hardly any specialty lingerie stores around and the dept stores think the whole world is smaller than a d cup. Shopping for bras online is impossible and I could never go braless, I even sleep in one. What a nightmare! I envy those of you who can go without.

  34. I don’t even want to think about underwear shopping. I just ask my husband to buy it for me.
    .-= Unknown Mami´s last blog ..I Comment Therefore I Am =-.

  35. I laugh but only because I know that I will one day be there! I even feel like it’s different walking into a lingerie store now that I have my son. Like what’s Mommy appropriate and what just screams S-L-U-T! :P I’ll have to start preparing myself! And hope that I have a daughter to teach me along the way!

  36. Oh I already feel I am not keeping up!
    .-= cat@juggling act´s last blog ..The 5th birthday report =-.

  37. I like the sports bras–they’re very comfortable and the straps don’t slide down my shoulders like some of the regular kind do which is very annoying to me. We have a Frederick’s store nearby but most of the things look very uncomfortable to me.

    Congrats on your SITS day!
    .-= Karen & Gerard Zemek´s last blog ..What I’d Like To Change About Myself IF I Could (Writer’s Workshop) =-.

  38. Well, as a former Victoria’s Secret store manager, I must say you ought to go with comfort. Start with getting fitted properly for a bra, and you can’t go wrong. If it doesn’t feel good, who cares how pretty it is? Comfort is king when it comes to bras, in my book. Good luck! Happy SITS Day and Happy Birthday Week again!
    .-= Elizabeth a.k.a. Type A Mommy´s last blog ..Beer and Brown Sugar Marinade =-.

  39. I agree with Elizabeth. Go for comfort. You can get lovely things that are really comfy these days
    .-= Hear Mum Roar´s last blog ..Five things I love about Summer-meme =-.

  40. I agree with the others: Comfort. I hate wearing a bra but I can not wear one and it stinks.
    .-= mom2kmjx2´s last blog ..Vera Bradley!!! =-.

  41. I’m in the same (sinking) boat! I feel your pain. Happy SITS Day.
    .-= Pam´s last blog ..Book Review: Lord of the Flies by William Golding =-.

  42. Comfort all the way!
    .-= Sandy´s last blog ..Cotton Clay Snowman Sculpture =-.

  43. I’m only in my 30s and I’m so over spending too much $ on lingerie. I hear ya!
    .-= The Local Cook´s last blog ..Pantry Essentials: All about Oil =-.

  44. Skooch on over cuz I’m right there in that boat with you! My husband found one of our daughters thongs and asked what kind of slingshot THAT was?! Me, I just want clean and comfortable. ;o)
    .-= Brenda @ Split Rock Ranch´s last blog ..Sibling Rivalry =-.

  45. Oh please, I am 34 and don’t have the time or money to spend on fancy items. I am more than happy with a plain well fitting bra and nice full coverage pair of panties. And foreget about matching. I’m more interested in my son’s clothes matching.
    .-= Karen´s last blog ..My amazing little boy & Truthful Tuesdays =-.

  46. I’m with you on the need for new lingerie. My bras are pretty pathetic.
    .-= Shana´s last blog ..Finally some progress… =-.

  47. I am all for comfort!
    .-= JDaniel4’s Mom´s last blog ..A Modern Mother’s Blog Carnival =-.

  48. Gosh, I’m somewhat in the same boat now at 36! After three babies in four years, I don’t look as cute in my little sets anymore! On another note, my mother called the lingerie set I purchased for my wedding night a “receiving gown”. Good Lord. Receiving of what I did not want to discuss with my mother of all people. :)
    .-= Natalie at Mommy on Fire´s last blog ..“Pay It Forward” at Target =-.

  49. I can’t imagine what kind of new lingerie they might come out with in the future….
    .-= Fallon´s last blog ..A Tale of Two Co-Workers =-.

  50. Why DID we put our bras back on? I found a bra lady and had a bra party…tha’s right…a bra party. I might blog about that one day. I have so little pride left anyway after the streaking incident.
    .-= Judy´s last blog ..Does Your Wedding Have a B#@*$&? =-.

  51. Well!! Let me see is lingerie something you put on, only when you are trying to get the credit card to go shopping?

    In my day it was limited also so the white cotton granny gowns we thought to be sexy. I like to buy beautiful sexy under garments and lingerie even at 63, it makes me feel good and sexy about my self.
    So ladies do it for you no matter the size….

  52. I hear ya! Not to mention what nursing your babies, uh, does.
    .-= Kim @ Cheap Chic Home´s last blog ..Easiest & Cheapest Bed Crown Ever! =-.

  53. Parachutes – that’s funny!
    Stopping by from SITS – enjoy your day!

  54. Let me just say, this girl *points to self* has all kinds of troubles finding anything lingerish. I was not spared in the bosoms department, so finding something sexy and filmy and yet supportive for items that truly are the size of melons is right there next to Moses parting the Red Sea. TMI? Perhaps.
    .-= Kearsie´s last blog ..I’d like to thank the Academy… =-.

  55. Happy SITS feature day!
    Shopping can be so intimidating. It seems like if you’re over 25 or larger than a size 5 (& in some places, if you’re not a 1 or a zero, size zero? What is that anyway?) the sales people don’t want to talk to you (you’re spending money, isn’t that their job?) & the other customers look at you like you just shouldn’t be there. Thanks for posting! It’s good to see that there’s a lot of us out there.
    .-= Shelley´s last blog ..I’m in love with my car? =-.

  56. Still laughing. Did you tell her to just wait, her day will come. :) Visiting from SITS!
    .-= Julie´s last blog ..The Song in My Head =-.

  57. Oh that’s hilarious! Yeah – it’s a sad day when the kids start calling our underwear parachutes – or worse yet – a Coleman tent! LOL Thanks for the laugh. Enjoy your day in the SITS spotlight!
    .-= The Mom @ Babes in Hairland´s last blog ..Toddler Version of an Old ‘Do =-.

  58. Hey, I’m already in the same boat! My solution lately have been “boy shorts,” although I’ve never seen any boy where what I’ve got on!
    .-= greedygrace´s last blog ..I Ain’t Scared to Admit it: 38DD =-.

  59. I have a huge amount of frilly bras & panties. I really must do it for myself, cuz hubs never gets to see me in them.

    He’s like: “come on….let me peek”…I’m like: “turn the light off, pervert”
    .-= Christine´s last blog ..My cat, the Stoner =-.

  60. How funny! I know what I like and stick with it. I usually only buy from Victoria Secret because I prefer the fit and quality, besides that I know my size there for sure!

    Until a few years ago I didn’t realize the importance of a good sports bra. I even bought a new one recently when I saw them on sale.

    I have never tried spanx (or anything similar) but people swear by it!
    .-= Michelle´s last blog ..Simply Love Swap =-.

  61. So I guess it’s safe to say you don’t wear thong/buttless panties, ha! I got a pair for my Mom and she thought they weren’t comfortable at all, but I can’t imagine wearing a full butted panty, so I guess it’s all what you are used too, ha!
    .-= Marie Cole´s last blog ..A Question of Color =-.

  62. Oh my goodness, this is absolutely hilarous :P.

    I remember the good old traingin bra days… ah, those were much better times lol.
    .-= Amber´s last blog ..Wednesday Weigh-In!! =-.

  63. Well I do know what all those different types of bras are. LOL I have to buy the industrial strength (and very expensive) over the shoulder boulder holders. But while I was pregnant and nursing, I mostly wore the camisoles with the built in shelf bras. Not that they were very supportive for the massive girls I grew, but while I was preggers, they were the only thing that was comfortable and while nursing, I didn’t have to fiddle with a nursing bra.

    Today as a SAHM, I’m lucky if I can find my actual bra when I need it!
    .-= Look at what Shan @ Last Shreds Of Sanity hopes you’ll read: …Shan’s Week~End Wordles =-.

  64. I knew I wanted to read this article :)

    Shelf bras = put it back on the shelf, cause your 50 year old girls aint gonna like it (they didnt)
    Sport bra= it is a sport getting it either on or off- just hope you are double jointed or a contortionist.

    Granny panties=comfy and front close bras = life is good .

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