As I’m working on Product Reviews for my Moomettesgram’s Musings blog, the 6:30 National news is on the television in the background. I overheard how women are now experiencing stress at alarming levels due to the state of the current economy.
Moms are a crucial part of the family network. We always joke that if mom gets ill, the family would crumble. That may not be far from the truth. So, mom, who do you turn to in times of stress to keep from crumbling?
A support system is important for busy moms. It’s easy to get weighed down by doctor’s appointments, work deadlines, family obligations, and housework. Hanging across the bed crying your eyes out is usually a sign to activate your stress support system.
A mom’s stress support system consists of her circle of acquaintances, family, friends, and professional associations. Anyone that is willing to stand in the gap for you when you need something becomes a part of the system. In turn, you are a part of that system for someone else.
Start with your family. They are the system’s first line of defense. When mom gets overloaded, family members will notice first. Their radar will go off before anyone else’s. Don’t be afraid to ask your spouse to wash the dishes or help with homework because you need a minute to yourself.
Children are particularly sensitive to changes in the home. Watch for subtle changes in their behavior, or discuss any issues you may have with their teachers.
Your other family members are a part of the system. My sisters-in-law are my best female friends. We can talk and laugh when something is bothering us. We might not come up with a solution but the laughter reduces the stress. It’s nice to be understood and have some ice cream when you’re down.
Professional associations are important to the stress support system, too. If the source of the stress is a legal matter, a lawyer can help you to see your way clear to a solution. If you feel you can’t afford one, legal aid services and other social agencies are available. Check with your local place of worship for assistance. The same goes for a good mechanic, doctor, hairstylist, and educator. It’s amazing how much easier stressful situations are to handle when you have professionals at hand who you can lean on … and trust. Your car breaks down? No problem. Just call your trusty mechanic. Kids have a toothache? No worries ~ your friendly dentist will save the day. Stress comes from the most unlikely places so your support system needs to include as many different sources of help as you can find.
I have also found answers on the Internet on message boards, when I’ve been stressed and needed help. Moms have many websites that cater to them and their special needs as working mom or stay at home mom. You may never meet these other women in person, but a close bond can be formed across the digital highway. Your closest friend could be in cyberspace. I’ve made many wonderful friends on Twitter. There’s nothing wrong with that. Turn to them if you need to talk. You don’t have to go it alone. Need a friend? Follow me on Twitter!
A support system is crucial for stress management. If you don’t have one, start recruiting today. Moms can always use the extra support.